2009-12-24 - 2:23 p.m.
But, while I'm on the subject of discrimination, let me tell you who I do think is being discriminated against. That is, married ladies who don't want babies. Which is to say, me.
No one had made attempts to intimidate me. Not yet, at least. (Here, I'm imagining that scene from Degrassi where the protesting old lady shoves a model baby in Erica's face outside the abortion clinic. Except that instead of old ladies, it's hoards of genetically-distinguished men. And some of them wave their wieners at you instead of plastic babies.) But I do feel that I'm being discriminated against in the sense that an awful lot of people have an awful lot of trouble accepting the lifestyle I've chosen. Imagine your friend telling you that they are gay. Would you then say to them, oh yes, you think that you're gay, but you'll change your mind, just wait and see. Would you say that to someone? Hell no. And if you would, I don't want to be your friend anymore. (Unless you were saying it as a joke, in which case, let's be best friends.) I realize that this analogy isn't perfect. That my choice is a choice and gayness isn't. But it isn't an entirely unreasonable comparison to draw. The fact is, it's insulting to tell someone that they are mistaken in things which are dear to them.
Until now, I feel that I've dealt with these situations like a lady. I've generally replied with something reconciliatory towards the breeders and explained that the whole thing simply just isn't for me. However, this strategy clearly isn't working. To make someone overcome their prejudices you have to educate them first. And educating takes time. It's really much easier to make people feel uncomfortable enough that they shut up.
And so it is that heretofore, if you offend me, I will no longer hesitate to explain that it is you who is mistaken and why not having babies is, in fact, awesome.
And as addendum to my previous post and this one, I now may or may not be courting a job with people who want to hire a white person and have said so explicitly. I've also been told that it helps my standing that I am married to a Japanese man and that having a baby would help even more. Awesome.
